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“Seven”

The anticipation of this month’s blog laid in the corners of my mind, behind the personal turmoil pulling at me, around the business needs, over the tasks of each day; tugging. Wondering how I’d get the thoughts to behave, how I’d attempt to talk them into making sense, I sat in front of the cursor flashing “Add Title”

And there they went, moving from heart, through mind; the circus that is my thoughts found guidance, & as if I’d given them marching orders, in single file they humbly found their way down my fingers, arranging their as-if coordinated place on this screen…

“7”

I’ve always had this close attachment to you, 7. This feeling of comfort, wholeness, completion; will you share this with that which was borne of me? 

On the 1st of April 7 years ago I walked into the familiar little shop I’d spent many days in before, but this time was different, it would be the start of a journey no story book or telenovela could’ve created. It was mine, my responsibility, my baby- I would have to take care of this. I often think back on times of trial, how many times I wished I’d never done such a crazy thing, how much stress & tears it’s caused, but like anything worth having; you have to be willing to fight HARD!

I always used to look at my employers & wonder if they knew that I was meant to be the boss🤣 Isn’t it strange how an entrepreneurial spirit can refuse for you to settle? Thank God for His covering & guidance, even in the times I was ready to quit, He kept me. Now… what’s next?

“The 7 year itch” has been a term used in marriage & in business – something about this milestone has the tendency of making people want to call it quits. I’ve however decided to look at it as a milestone signifying the end of the trial years & the beginning of abundance in all shapes & forms. Comfort, Wholeness, Completion (From my mouth to God’s ears)

“The past is to be learned from but not lived in. We look back to claim the embers from glowing experiences but not the ashes. And when we have learned what we need to learn and have brought with us the best that we have experienced, then we look ahead and remember that faith is always pointed toward the future.”

― Jeffrey R. Holland

So as though metaphorically submerging into a bed of water to emerge new at the doorway of this new season- what do I leave behind & what do I cling onto? Here’s what I’ve learned:

Boundaries. 

People will take what they can from you; this has been & continues to be a difficult lesson to learn (especially for someone who loves giving). Some friends will be more supportive of Rihanna’s annoying belly parading all over Instagram than they will your small business, & that’s quite alright. There will be the friends you meet by chance who will give you more support than others ever did. Set boundaries with the “family discount” friends & continuously show your cheerleaders how much you value them ♥

Goals

Goals give you something to aim for but can just as easily give you anxiety & feelings of mediocrity when trying to be great. I’ve learned to make my goals & timelines achievable & to do my best to give myself a pat on the back when I see the visions I had become reality. My goals aren’t dependant on who’s running next to me, they’re dependant on what my spirit man tells me my capacity is.

My Team

I have been greatly blessed with the people in my life who pick me up when I’m ready to stay defeated. My therapists who run the show, deal with my sometimes completely crazy moods, & tell me it’s totally ok to go home @3 & pour a glass of wine when I’ve had just about enough. I’m grateful for the irreplaceable pillar that is my mom, who’s reminded me many times that I’m “not an island” & it’s ok to reach out for help- I love you so much 💖 I’m grateful for the friends who became family, who promote my business & cheer me on, my life is better with you all in it.

The woman I was walking into that shop 7 years ago is most certainly not the woman I see in the mirror today. Will you be with me for the next 7 years of this incredible, insane, life threating & rather gratifying journey? I hope so.

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The anticipation of this month’s blog laid in the corners of my mind, behind the personal turmoil pulling at me, around the business needs, over the tasks of each day; tugging. Wondering how I’d get the thoughts to behave, how I’d attempt to talk them into making sense, I sat in front of the cursor […]

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Consistency is key

In a world of inconsistencies – what is it that keeps us sane? (of sound mind; not mad or mentally ill)

The past month was yet another reminder of the importance of mental health, we live fast, bombarded by information, always connected to social media; making even the strongest people question our lives, looks, achievements, timelines… everything!

What we allow in our minds, the thoughts we entertain & patterns of processing we’ve adapted, can conspire to turn us against ourselves; where do we start to do better? My OG (I love you Precious♥) & I were talking the other day about how overwhelming the pressures of life can get, & we decided to make sure we change the way we speak to ourselves. Instead of negative self-talk, we committed to rather congratulate ourselves for even the smallest wins – & stay consistent about it! At the beginning of the year I wrote about easing the pressure on myself & I must say I’m winning! It’s the 8th of the month & I’m not persecuting myself for the delay, instead I’m thankful I finally found some inspiration this morning 😉 I may be late but I’m consistent. {Laurien, you rockstar, you legend, look at you winning 🤘}


I don’t think there’s many of us that are strangers to how life can sometimes get the better of us, however, staying ahead of the slump could be how we beat it. What are the things you do to keep you sane? I have some outlets but more importantly I was reminded that remaining consistent in whatever it is we do is the only way to tackle life. Consistent & authentic- ’cause being consistently not you won’t help either!

I think trying to fit the mold of who you’re expected to be, how people see your life, & making decisions based on what looks right is a winning recipe for failure. Why do we think pleasing other people will make us happy? Has that ever actually worked? Choosing your squad could be the most important decision we ever make, who we spend our time & energy on & who we let inside has the ability to make or completely break us… choose wisely.

Over the weekend I caught myself laughing, very loudly & if I’m honest, a tad unladylike – but it’s me & I am falling in love with my laugh from today forward 🤣 We think living authentically means still changing the parts of ourselves that may not be pleasing to others, we should unlearn that! Life is a lot sometimes & accepting & loving yourself (flaws & all) may not only make our day to day lives more beautiful but it will most certainly allow you to see who your squad really is.

“If you are persistent you will get it. If you are consistent you will keep it.”

— Anonymous

Relationships are everything❤🌻🥂 water them, feed them, celebrate & protect them; especially the one you have with you… consistently & authentically.


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The month of (self) love

Yes, it’s February… the time when singles are either looking for a place to protest the scam that is love, or a place to find some love; when wives are wondering if their husbands will be once again complaining about this money making scheme that they are pressured into taking part in, & the newly “in-love” couples wanting to drown their S.O in a stream of chocolates, overly priced roses & weird looking teddy bears.

I so clearly remember Valentine’s Day in high school, the students coming around with a rose or a very dodgy tasting ❤ chocolate that gave us this horrible false sense of love🤦‍♀️- what exactly were our teachers trying to teach us? mxm

To be really honest, I have been guilty of looking for someone else’s love for/approval of me, to then be able to fully love who I am, how twisted & upside down is that? Until I learned, allowed myself to see, & fully accepted all the beautiful (& not so beautiful) parts of me that make me who I am, I had no idea how to filter the people in my life – scary, right?! I spent so many years unable to look at my own beauty that I minimised it to fit into someone else’s mould, only to wake up months, sometimes years later, discovering that these people took from me & gave nothing, sadly the only things they built were my insecurities.

I never quite understood the term “finding yourself” but I get it now, the place where you can be completely happy & feel real love coming from YOU. Being able to love comes from understanding what (&WHO) real love is. There is no person or relationship that can do that for you, & looking for love in someone else’s hands will never end well.

1 Corinthians 13:4

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant  or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;  it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I think “self love” is vitally important , I also think some people might be taking it a little out of context. When does it stop being a way to care for yourself & start being just plain selfish? Before proclaiming your self-love journey, be honest about your intentions & do some introspection; are you taking some time to give yourself the love you need by making your favourite meal, listening to the music that fires up your soul, reading a book that speaks to you etc, or are you hiding behind the guise of “self-love” to camouflage your selfishness (I said what I said!)

Self-Love isn’t you not wanting to hear someone out, seeing yourself as more important than some one else, or eluding to the fact that your love for yourself is more important than loving others, I know the man upstairs can easily help you figure that out.

So, this Valentines day & month of love, I’m committing to STILL loving me. Still figuring out, establishing & re-establishing my boundaries, still re-aligning myself when I’m not as strong as I want to be, still practicing the kind of self-love that will make me able to love the people around me better, to fill my own cup with love, kindness, patience, gratitude, to make me able to pour into the people around me. What are you committing to?

How do you see the month of love & what are your views on self-love?

With Love,

Laurien

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