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This chapter is called…?

It’s time to put manicured nail to qwerty again. My mental demanded a break, and yet being back feels better than ever. Once again I’m reminded of the therapy this part of my job is, how grateful I am to be able to do so many of the things I really love. More than ever I realise how fortunate I am to do what I have loved for over 20 years, & how blessed I am to have clients who actually want to hear me wag my chin about the symphony of texture, aroma & results that is Matis.

I went for my laser hair removal this week @ https://satoribeautyandwellness.co.za/  (I do LOVE barter…) & my gorgeous, oh so fabulous friend Hayley gave me possibly the biggest compliment I have ever received. She told me how happy she is for me,  looking at where my life is now🥰 ; not so long ago I felt like nothing was going right. Frustrated with stagnation, overwhelmed with the mountain that is my degree, stressed, exhausted, aching; completely missing the essence of me.

I can point to a week, maybe even a few moments when I felt a shift in my spirit, a time when my head & heart decided on the same dance, switching between lead and follow, and finally the darkness lifted & just like that… all the pieces (I didn’t even know were missing) fell together. So many contributing factors and so many hearts play a critical role in the story that is my life & to all you treasures, Thank You!

The past month or two we have seen more people concerned with ageing than I can remember! We’ve seen more clients change to anti-age serums, and more clients expand their homecare routines. Our data shows a definite upward trend in more anti-age skincare treatments & we’re here for it! With the sun finally out to play after it’s little tantrum last week, I feel it’s the best time to celebrate ageing gracefully, AND taking it up a notch with our skincare. I can honestly say that I am obsessed with how fantastic my skincare is at the minute, I’ve introduced the Densifiance serum & the Caviar cream; the level of bliss I am experiencing on a daily in front of my bathroom mirror is positively life changing. My dedication to treat my neck & hands more specifically is a true representation of “over 40” 🤦🏽‍♀️I would be THRILLED to talk more about this is you catch me at the salon 😉

I am so excited to focus this month’s promos on anti-ageing, weather you’re 30, 40 or 70, we all would love to age more gracefully so let’s start right now!

I know, we’re speeding toward that dreaded time of year where everyone is grumpy, there are more bad days, your tired is tired & even if you plan to do Christmas shopping early, you very well may find yourself short tempered and frustrated on the 24th of December. Some things don’t change. What I can confidently say is, that 5 minutes with your skin at the end of each day works just like a plaster on your 5 year old’s knee. 😉 It’s also what your skin needs.

EASE:

If you do something with ease, you do it easily, without difficulty

to make or become less severe, difficult, unpleasant, painful

What would this chapter of my life be called? “Ease”, not because it’s easy, but because I want to squeeze as much ease into each day I can. Because I will choose to only take on only what I can, to unapologetically take a step back when frustration and unnecessary difficulty are the grey clouds and heavy stones that make the way forward an uphill battle, and possibly most importantly, I want to show the people in my life that “with ease” is the only way to handle me. I promise to check-in with myself whenever necessary, to make sure I remain firmly seated in my unapologetic femininity. Being the adultiest adult in many areas of my life for longer than I’d liked, has cultivated a woman who craves ease like never before.

Here’s to an October full of anti-age habits; minds, hearts & spirits that are calm & full of ease. Who’s with me?

 

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My sweet aroma

I must admit, Mandela Day is a surprise to me every year. I have never planned to do anything & I often wonder if the people so eager to post about their 67minutes do it for “clout” (as the youth say), is it budgeted into philanthropy or charity in companies? Does it really have the impact intended?

I’m not coming for Madiba, I’m just wondering if our hearts have forgotten what charity really is, does anyone check their heart posture in these areas or is it just a task checked off?

There are so many great men and women in our story who gave their lives to a cause, fought and stayed gracious, and will stay alive forever in hearts and history books. Have you ever thought about the kind of legacy you would leave behind? I think about it more than is healthy I’m sure… What do people see and feel when they are around you? How do you leave people feeling?

Do you think your presence is a sweet aroma, or if you’re really honest, could you be more like a thorn caught deep in soft skin, or perhaps that unknown something we can’t see stuck in the eye- distorting vision.

It disturbs me that thorn like people can throw some money around on Mandela Day, & since our world now thinks that money is more valuable than good character, they get the praise they’ve paid for.

 

This month I want to hold myself to a higher standard – don’t get it twisted, I’m a caring someone, I’ve just been through turmoil that knocked me off my feet, & over the past few days I have been reminded that there are beautiful souls all around me & my God sees every tear and swoops in to Romans 8:28 my situation. We just don’t know what people are facing and the smallest act of kindness could be just what someone needs – I want to be the glimmer of hope because that’s what I’ve so desperately needed. So, maybe compliment a stranger, buy a coffee at DC Coffee for a mystery person, reach out to someone, pray for your loved ones, decide to smile & let it go instead of holding onto something that won’t make you any sweeter. Perhaps?

Laurien ❤️

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My piece of this existence

Does anyone else scrutinize everything, holding a microscope up to the things that are “just that way“? I feel confused more often than not. People, situations, reactions, economics & statistics; all very confusing. Or perhaps not everyone is tormented by thoughts – well, how does that feel?!

When I was much younger I always felt so out of place, was it the fact that I moved around so much, or have I always been a rather sensitive soul? I’m leaning towards the latter. There were a whole lot of ingredients that created a very angry little person… add 1 cup of unrefined frustration, 2 litres of Whisky Tango Foxtrot, and 5kgs of “what do I do with this feeling” and out of the oven came an overcooked, spicy, unbalanced meal, heavy on the emotional calories.

I believe I’ve become a different person over and over, finally having the ability to soften, become (sometimes too) flexible, learn the fine art of forgiveness, and able to recognise the beauty I’ve worked at cultivating in myself. Unfortunately there are some lessons that are significantly harder than others, some things weighing so much they bend your will and break your spirit, but being soaked in superglue makes putting them down feel like a constant battle. Reflecting on it all, I’m faced with the reality that the harsh, abrasive me that once was, was just a scared young girl that didn’t know how else to feel protected.

I often wonder about people who lack empathy and wonder if I would be more successful in business if I were one of them. Would I make better business decisions? Would I be able to let go of hurtful emotions instead of packing them in this big suitcase to carry around on my head? No wonder my neck is sore 😂. Empathetically challenged people are much like statistics to me, – they obviously have a reason for existing but make no sense to me no matter how much I try to understand. I must admit, having little to no emotions fogging up the place could be kinda nice…

I sat on a pedicure recliner, listening to James Ingram on Saturday morning with the 1st draft of this blog. I’m sure my music selection prompted the trip down the railway of my life… & I found myself concerned about the weight of these words & how I’d manage to get this to relate to the June promos😵‍💫 Today I’m like, here’s the blog, hope you like it!

On days when deep in thought, finding more questions than answers, trying to make it all make sense; I can’t help but be freshly grateful for my job, my phenomenal staff, and the people who love me. Sunday’s message was titled “Comes With It” – Are we prepared to navigate the trial/persecution/hardship that comes with the blessing? We are often so focussed on the challenges and pain that come before and with the blessing that it becomes so hard to understand that it’s necessary; just like the pain with the birth.

June has begun & brought with it a need for fluffy socks, extra blankets and the soup pots. Before you dive in may I ask, what do you want to carry with you this month?

I’m taking a bigger helping of compassion for myself, acceptance of all the pieces of me – giving no apologies for the deep oceans that create the unique layers of who I am.

Above all, I’m going to try my best to carry in me a well of faith, that even when I can’t see clearly, I’ll know if I put my pale down this well, I’ll be sure to retrieve an overflow.

Let’s try to welcome the challenges as the process that one must follow to get to the great. Here’s to a wonderful, beautiful June for us all.