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When Mother’s Day hurts

Each year my marketing in May, like most businesses, focusses on Mother’s Day- it’s important & we should but I thought I’d share some personal views this mother’s day.

When I was younger I totally believed I didn’t want kids & needless to say these days are very different. Failed relationships, almost marriages, realising what we want & don’t want takes alot longer than we generally think, right?

We all know the drill, the expectation of marriage & children by a certain age & the questions & comments that follow when “it’s your time”

We’ve been so programmed to hear the biological clock & some of us even start making the wrong choices to try fit the timeline. This year, can we commit to acceptance of God’s plan? Can we become a little more sensitive to other women who struggle in silence while wearing a smile? Can we celebrate us all?

This month we’re doing a “Mommy & Me” promo but I feel a nagging urge to dive deeper into what Mother’s Day may mean to different women.

One day I’ll know what the kicking in my belly feels like, but for now I’ve been blessed with having 2 of the most beautiful loving kids to shower with all my love & affection, I’m blessed to have them in my life 🙂

I had a conversation with my bestie (aka “my” kids’ dad) & he told me a story about a rabbit & an elephant, long story short, the rabbit’s pregnancy is around 31 days & the elephant is pregant for 22 months! Yep, that’s right, like 2 whole years! The story ends with the elephant saying “You have to understand,what’s inside me isn’t puppy or a bunny, when my baby hits the ground, the earth trembles it, what I’m carrying is mighty & great!”

I loved that story! Sometimes we don’t understand the wait & the why but we have greatness stored up & when your time really does come, it will be mighty & great! Worth waiting for.

I want to shout out to the infertile woman, the woman who’s marriage is in danger from the heaviness of fertility treatments, the single woman waiting for her Boaz, the woman who’s about to give up…

A shout out to the single mom trying to be both parents & doing her best, to the tired mom who isn’t coping, to the depressed mom who can’t ask for help, the mom who questions if she’s good enough…

The children who’ve lost their mothers & mothers who’ve lost their children. What could replace, make sense of, or validate this empty space nobody can fill?

So this Mother’s Day to all the sons, daughters, moms, moms to be, tired moms, struggling moms; we see you & we love you!

You are enough

You are worthy

You are strong

You are capable